Creating a Healthy Lifestyle: Family Style
Chapter 1: How do I start?
I want to start out this post with something I hear way too often… How are people sticking to a healthy lifestyle when it comes to eating when you have to cook different food for your husband and kids?
I want to say upfront that eating healthy is hard! It takes preparation, will power and a sense of discipline. Even if you cook most or all meals at home it’s still hard! However, it can be done. No matter how much you have going on, or what budget you are on, eating healthy is possible with a husband and kids that tend not to be on board with “healthy”.
I need you to realize that it is OK if you are making this decision independently and it DOES NOT mean that you are neglecting your family or you are not loving your family. Hear me out…
My goal here is to help you understand that YOU are important, YOU are worth changing and YOUR health is worth saving. You need to recognize first that YOU deserve change and you deserve a healthy lifestyle. Then you need to recognize that your family also deserves a healthy lifestyle.
Change. What does change mean? It means you are about to do something that you have not been doing. Your about to embark on something new. Change is scary, it’s something that most of us avoid. However, your life is at stake. Seriously, it is. Like a car, do you think if you don’t maintain it and take care of it, it will last as long as it should. No. Our bodies are no different.
So where to we start?
Firsts things first. I need you to get out a piece of paper and a pen. I need you to write out these words. I HAVE NOT BEEN LIVING A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE AND I AM READY TO CHANGE. THE REASON I AM READY TO CHANGE IS____________.
OK, now that we got that out of the way, you have to own this statement. You are now on a mission and I don’t know about you, but when I am on a mission and I have committed to something I am about to prove myself, and a lot of other people wrong.
OK this is great, I am pretty sure I can take care of myself and make good choice for me, but what about my husband and my kids. They will not eat healthy. I have to pause for a second and take a deep breath before I am ugly. And honestly this kind of things is dear to my heart and REALLY upsets me because I see this time and again where the entire family is not on board and therefore the person who makes the initial commitment fails. The person who is putting out all the effort fails because after so long she cannot fight the fight anymore. So lets just get this out there. If you are doing the shopping (husband or wife) you get to make the decisions and choices. You are in control. If the other partner does not like the choice, then they can go to store themselves. Honestly!!! They can. This does not mean you do not love them or are not a supportive partner. This means that you are making a decision to eat healthy. I think often times a woman, we feel like we ” need” to make our husband or kids happy and food ends up being ones of the ways we can do this. Buying snack cakes or cooking “feel good” food means we love them. SO if we stop doing this, we don’t love them.
I call B.S. on this!!!!! Providing bad food for your family does not qualify as one of the 5 love languages. So right now, if you are the one who buys the groceries, you have to get it out of your head that you must buy certain things for our partner or kids to show them love.
I advise that you talk to your partner about your decision to become healthy and get them on board. If they refuse, then kindly tell them they will have to prepare their own food.
As for your kids. Depending on their age, the challenges will be quite different. Younger kids do not have choices. You make them for the child. Although they may not like certain things, you are in control. You might have to get creative, but they will not starve.
Older kids need to be a part of the process. Engage them in shopping lists and shopping as well as preparing meals. Make things fun like theme night and let them be a chef for the night and cook and even decorate for the theme.
Making the decision to life a healthy lifestyle can be quite stressful in the beginning. I understand. However, I know that in order for us to be the best wife, husband, sister, brother, friend we can be, we must treat our bodies with respect. We must aim to live as healthy as possible.
So now that you have acknowledged that you have a problem. You have committed to changing your lifestyle. Changing your families lifestyle, what next…..
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